That’s OK, struggling to cope when someone you love is gone is a very natural process;
A partner will often continue to shop for two, set a place for the one they love or even try to make a mobile call to their phone…it happens! It’s nothing to be ashamed about, but it’s more so about ‘how’ you cope!
Everyone grieves in different ways and at different times…it’s vital to talk with your family or close friends, maybe even a grief counsellor? Sure, we never like to admit that we need help, but it’s an extremely traumatic time and leaning on family can be difficult for them (if they too are going through that grief and loss) so that’s why I like to recommend a grief counsellor, I’m not a counsellor but will always lend that friendly ear to those who have lost someone in a difficult time.
So, what’s should we do?
- Give yourself some time to adjust to the loss – after a short time or many years, losing someone you love hurts!
- Look after YOU! – try to stay healthy, active and well.
- For the men – Yep…It’s OK to cry and feel low, it’s more important to talk to friends.
- It’s normal to feel relieved if a loved one passes after suffering for some time – Letting go rather than the suffering is OK.
- Share those feelings – don’t lock them up – with a compassionate listener or professional counsellor, it makes a world of difference.
- There’s no time limit to ‘feeling better’
For details of counsellors and support groups for ALL ages, visit The Australian Centre for Grief and Bereavement Counselling.
Remember that grief is a natural part of your life.
Take care and love one another!