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The Best Farewell

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IMG_3262On Friday I was lucky enough to have the privilege of conducting a funeral service for a lovely family.

Every family is different when it comes to what they’d like in a funeral service for their loved one, but one thing always stays the same.

They want the service to be filled with love, honour and respect for the one who’s passed and this family certainly gave him that farewell.

It had laughs, tears and two old mates to ‘tell the truth’ about some of his stories, the eulogy was served by a family member. Sometimes people like to deliver a ‘traditional eulogy’, I call this the biography. I really like to deliver the biography for the family, leaving them to give us great memories of their loved one.

It allows you to tell really lovely stories of those that have passed and makes a service go from down to amazing in the blink of an eye. Mind you, they certainly did that with this eulogy, that not only had the biography, but also some great memories that everyone chuckled along with.

It brings me to the point about what to put into a Eulogy, is one any better than the other? What do I say? Can I bring up bad stuff about them?

The answer is really easy, do whatever you are comfortable with. But, here’s a few guidelines that families are happy I give them to use;

Through a persons life, the story of their trials, achievements, high and low points, labours and loves are seldom, if ever told. The Eulogy is a way of telling that story so loved ones and friends can share the different aspects of that persons life and character.

FOLLOWING ARE SOME POINTS TO INCLUDE:
•    Where and When was the person born?
•    Who were the parents of the loved one?
•    Did they have brothers and sisters?
•    Where did this person go to school?
•    Some amusing experiences they had when growing up?
•    Was this person in any of the Defence Forces?
•    Where and when did this person meet their partner and marry?
•    Any children and grandchildren and their names?
•    Did they belong to any clubs or associations?
•    Did your loved one have any hobbies or interests?
•    Is there a poem or verse you may like included within the service?

This is also a poem that so many people choose for me to deliver at a funeral service, and you can read why, so beautiful.

The End – Unknown Author.
When I come to the end of the road
And the sun has set for me
I want no tears in a gloom filled room
Why cry for a soul set free
Miss me a little but not to long
And not with your head bowed low
Remember the love that once we shared
Miss me – but let me go.

For this is a journey we all must take
And for each must go alone
It’s all part of a bigger plan
A step on the road to home
When you are lonely and sick of heart
Go to the friends we know
And bury your tears in their loving arms
Miss me – but let me go!

We don’t really like to think about death, but when the time comes it’s best to have a plan of what you’d like at your funeral service.

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21 Jun, 15

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  • ***Craig Murphy*** says: posted on 21 Jun, 2015

    Adam, a very well written piece on eulogies, family input and the flexibility of today’s funeral service. Nice work.

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